Ask my mother and she can give you a long list of friends who ruined me to no end. It started in my early years, when I gave my maths notes to my friend to show as hers, and I ended up beaten on hands by the class teacher. While this is one of the most talked about stories to confirm about my naivety at my mom’s – the list is really really long. I’ve have always been gone with gut feel and suffered many a times due to the “gut”. My mother fed me enough foods for gut that it has a strong sense of intuition and guides me towards her.
There is just one problem with gut. When you fall, you fall really hard. So while it is generally safe to go with intuition, there is one more additional rule I’ve added while picking friends – over a period of time. That is –
Observe how you feel after having an interaction with them.
Do you feel down?
Do you feel bad about yourself, because you spent all the time bitching about others ?
Do you feel hatred, because of the excessive inputs on a particular topic?
Do you feel peaceful because the person let you the way you are, and let you just be?
Do you feel tired, as the other person treated you like a hearing dustbin with no regard to your yawns and frustrated time checking ?
If you listen to your feelings carefully enough – they often guide you to who is an absolutely NO NO. Rest – I think the feelings get stronger as we interact more and it gets easy to take a decision.
Offlate, I’ve used this to stop a friendship from forming, broken a long friendship of couple of years and used this to strengthen one more. No telling which one’s which – but you get the point.
Use this and tell me how it went. Have a good day and keep rocking!!