Share, share and share

Share, share, share

Share if you care.

Share your pear.

It will make you dear.

Share your food

It will make you good.

Tortoise shares with hare

Oh, its so rare.

Share with your sister

Hello hello mister.

Share share share

Everybody share

Sharing’s a good habit

Even if you’re a rabbit.

I know, i owe you an explanation for thr above.;) saanvi has poem recitation today and i delayed teaching her until night 9 the day before. So, i reached out for google and told her to learn ‘hey diddle diddle’. She said – ‘amma, why dont u create one for me,!’. That is the best thing i have heard in the recent past. We spent next 15 mins coming up with rhyming words and making sentences out of it. She learnt it well and slept off. Me too, with a great satisfaction.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Amma..hungry!

Its been really long long years i have chronicled anything about kids. Saanvi had lot of entries in this blog. This is a first to vihana – my 22 mths old younger kid.

As saanvi sleeps and vihana keeps roaming from hall to bedroom for about 50 times, it is about 10 pm. My idli plate was in the hall from 9 pm, when i came with kids into the bedroom. I told vihana –

‘Amma is so hungry. Why dont u sleep soooon?!!’

She gets up from her place with a mission. Chanting ‘amma hungry, amma hungry’, she barges out.  Within seconds, i see her bringing the idli plate to me and saying – ‘amma idli. Tinu’. I was pleasantly surprised.

10.15pm and vihana is still strolling around. I decide its high time i eat my dinner.i come out and so does vihana.

She sits in front of me and opens the sambar vessel. ‘Amma tinu’. And starts serving me. And then continuous to serve me. ‘Amma hungry. Idli tinu’. She keeps prompting me in between. Then proceeds to serve me chutneys and brings me water bottle.

As vinod watches with amusement, she goes to her dad with concerned face and says – ‘amma hungry.idli tinu’.

My heart is filled with joy and my eyes are filled with tears. This just shows what a fun filled roller coaster ride my future is going to be;)

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

An article everyone should read: Posting Kid’s Pics to Facebook

As part of my casual weekend reading, I turned to http://www.thenewsminute.com late night yesterday and was shocked to read a DISGUSTING article. Don’t believe me, read for yourself:

http://www.thenewsminute.com/article/should-parents-post-pictures-their-children-facebook-paedophiles-lurking-our-midst

What the … ?? Facebook, a platform where people share their personal photos are being targeted in such a vulgar manner. The more I thought, I wanted to QUIT Facebook and every social media platform out there. Better safe than sorry?  Or shall I start treating Facebook as an unknown ocean full of  dangers, and put in only selective things – like a small fish going around afraid of life all the time?

I’m always for technology. I believe technology in essence is not bad, we just find more bad use cases for it than good. So, although one part of me wanted to quit Facebook – the other said: Use some caution. I decided on the second one.

First thing after coffee in the morning is to open Facebook, waste few minutes looking at updates and then go straight to Privacy Settings. I’ve updated as below –

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Guys –  Please don’t post your kid’s photos for likes, and social approvals. If needed, post it with strict privacy measures. Keep rocking!!

The Story of Power Telling

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I just reversed the title a bit, similar to ‘The common of a Power man’ in the recent blockbuster ‘Chennai Express’. The title is ‘The Power of Story Telling’. I would like to tell this though an example.

My darling daughter Saanvi who turned 3 couple of months back is averse to bathing, but likes to sit in her bath tub, terming it as “Swimming”. So, when I call her to bathe, she will respond on a pre-condition that she will enter the bathroom only for swimming and not for bathing. I’ve tried many different ways, and finally settled to tell her a particularly fictitious horror story about bathing, which ticked big time with her. The story goes like this –

Once upon a time, there was a king. He didn’t like bathing but only wanted to swim everyday. So, day on day dirt accumulated on him and a black patch formed all over his body. Soon, ants, mosquitoes and all dirty insects started crawling on him. He smelled foul and no one played with him. He wasn’t even allowed into the playground. So, he ordered his soldiers and asked them to bathe him. So, 10 soldiers each took one soap each and started bathing one part of the body each. It took them one year to clean off the dirt and the king became white and fresh again! So, everyone played with him and since then he took bath everyday!! He used to ask his mom to bathe him first thing in the morning.

I made quite a few funny sounds, during the time soldiers bathed the king. She was hooked on. She immediately asked me – “Mom, will I get a black patch too?”. That’s it – my story is a success. I finished her bath in 5 minutes and got her out of the bathroom.

Tell a story. Persuade people – tell them why they need to do a particular thing.  It works – from toddlers to older people. The story needs to scare people a bit, soothe them and offer a solution – all at once while striking an emotional chord with them. Are you ready to sell things by weaving them into a beautiful story? For me, the journey has begun and I am sure to tell lot  more stories to Saanvi to get things done my way 🙂

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Saanvi Chronicles: One Month Experiment & Results

At home, we often call my daughter “Don Saanvi” after the telugu movie “Don Seenu”, for the very reason that she gets things done her way by the umpteen number of techniques she has on us.

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Since last one year, I had the opportunity to work from home, and boy – it was the toughest year of my job so far. I still managed to do it, as my work was fairly independent and could get done at nights or early mornings when every one in the house was asleep. When you go to work, you hardly take care of them in their most energetic times / most frustrating times of the day. Now that, I had access to the wide range of emotions – laughter, play, crankiness on my plate, I learnt how to handle them along the way. However, my family had minor complaint on me, that I could learn to be a bit more patient with her, although I was doing okay.

Firstly, I vehemently disagreed. Then, as with other things – I kept it on back burner of my mind and started observing myself in all the interactions. Although I could roughly understand what they meant – I still had all my excuses to behave that way. Finally, I decided to take 1 month Challenge and record the results and learnings.

Duration: August 14th to Sept 13th 2013

Challenge:  Not even once, I will lose patience with Saanvi. Will never discuss about her, ANYTHING with ANYONE.

Result: SUCCESS!!

Experience handling the Challenge:

Being the person who loves Challenges in every aspect of life, I attuned myself to this fairly easily. Rule is a rule, and never meant to be broken. So, from August 14th, I made up my mind to do whatever it takes not to break the rule. Being a fussy eater, she tested my patience to extreme levels. Now that I did not have the option of losing my temper, I had to find innovative ways of getting her on track. And that is where my learnings begun.  I had awesome days with her, where things worked like a Charm, and terrible days where nothing was good enough to console her.

Self Introspection is tough to do. Discovering your own weaknesses in that process and acknowledging them only makes us more human, and progressive in nature.  Here are my key learnings from the 1 month experiment:

a) TUNE into your KID’s Emotional Radio.  Get to know every single one of their feelings, and when they react – you should know why they react. As this skill gets mastered, a lot of things happen intuitively. If you know she’s hungry rather than she is cranky – you’d feed her rather than try to discipline. That makes hell lot of difference to the entire scene.

b)  NEVER talk about THEM anywhere – in front of them, behind and in your mind. Once a thing gets repeatedly SAID to KIDS, it becomes their life rule. Example, we say that the kid is naughty and no one can never control them. If that is said to them in their vicinity every single day, that sets the expectations that they should be behaving so. By totally avoiding talking about them, the situations don’t dictate what kind of person they should be growing up to.

Also, words are so powerful that the more attribution is given to a particular feeling, it becomes more stronger in your own mind. I had few occasions in the duration of challenge, where I felt like giving up, but I just didn’t verbalize and kept going on with other stuff.  Learn to ignore the trivial stuff.

c) RESPECT the FEEDBACK you get from your family.  They were partly true – there were situations where I could have been more patient, but I was tired, or had something stressful going on with me at that point of time. So,I too was right. But, as they say – It’s all about priorities. So, I learnt to get my priorities right.

Lot of other little learnings along the way. But, I can confidently say that this one month of challenge has helped me find the little tweaks that need to be done in an engine, to ensure a smooth and long, successful motherhood journey.

If you repeatedly get feedback about your kids, or have some for yourself – why not take a month challenge and see if could change your perspective on some things?

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Saanvi Chronicles: Her first appreciation & Criticism

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Only since the past 2 days, I begun to understand how kids grow up fast, in a blink of eye.  Saanvi gave me shockers day after day, and prompted me to write this article, to save it for my pleasant memories later on…

Situation:  Night, around 10 PM

Conversation:

Saanvi : Mama, I need boost now.

Me: Saanvi, shall I get you a lemonade instead? You like it, right? ( I have my practical reasons to avoid Boost at that time)

Saanvi: Yay, Lemonade is my favorite. I’ll help you make it.

So, we go to the kitchen and she helps me out with squeezing the lemon, adding sugar and mixing – more or less preparing it herself. After I taste it and adjust it to her tastebuds, she sips a bit, gives me THAT look and starts off

Saanvi: Mama, this lemonade is very sour. You did not manage to make it well – the sugar is less and the lemonade is not mixed well. Ok, remember from next time – add proper quantities of everything and mix well. And also, these lemon strands – I don’t want them. If they go in my stomach, will I not get a stomach ache? I don’t want to drink this anymore..

Me: ??!!!!!

I am quite used to Saanvi’s verbose reactions on things, and her not touching food and giving me feedback that she doesn’t like it. But, not with descriptions of the ingredients and telling me on what happens if she eats that food. God save me I thought, drank the lemonade myself and put her to bed.

Situation: Evening, around 5 PM

Conversation:

Me: Saanvi, would you like to drink Tomato Soup?

Saanvi : Yey yeh tomato soup, i like it! Can you quickly make it for me?

Off I go, and use the readymade tomato soup powder and get her soup ready in 10 minutes. She insists that she fed the soup herself and i go away from there. So, I sit in another room, reading some depressing news in the newspaper.

Saanvi, suddenly after some time: Mama, you made the soup really well. You added the proper salt, sugar , water and mixed it very well. I liked it and will drink it completely!

Me: So, did you like the soup?

Saanvi: Yes, and remember how you made it this time. I want the same soup everytime.

She didn’t manage to finish her bowl, but half of it really fast.

We laughed out loud, when saanvi was explaining on why the soup was good. Later , when I come to think of it – kids really turn out the way the family operates.  There is no other way. 🙂 Our family has a unique way of dissecting every food item that gets on the table, and how each spice is less / more or just right. We also talk about whether the recipe should be preserved, and a particular dish should be made exactly the way it is done now.  Kids have god blessed observation skills. So, although I was very surprised at first, a realization dawned on me slowly :  As Parents, the home is your biggest theater and you are the actors on the stage for the rest of your life. A small, tiny creature will be your audience, who will be an actor just like you, once she grows up. It is our responsibility to act well, so that tomorrow we don’t curse her on how she is doing.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Happy Birthday Saanvi!

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This is one of my favorite photos – Saanvi with her father.  Saanvi celebrates her 3rd birthday today. I wish she gets the strength and wisdom to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

We have a small gathering to celebrate this occasion in the evening. Tom & Jerry Cake, along with red-pink-white theme balloon decoration are geting ready.  All the materialistic things are taken care of – there is one thing I’d like to mention this special day.

As a parent, the best gift you can give to your kids is your undivided attention. When your kid comes and speaks, or tries to get your attention – savor that moment, drop everything else and listen to them.  Those will be the moments that will help build the bond. An equally important gift would be to talk to them when they are in a mood to listen. Tell them things you expect them to do or behave in a certain way. Build that bond, so that they know that parents will tell them things that will be of good to them. When kids become teenagers, this will be the biggest savior for parents.

Here’s wishing my sweetie pie Saanvi all the happiness in her life. As I always say to my family, I wish she turns out like her Dad – I’d be the happiest Mom in the world!!

Have a good day and keep rocking!