Off late, to add to what I often think – few things I’ve heard from my friends and close people reinforced my thinking on how to raise girls.
Yes, Conventional wisdom. Raise Girls Strong. Raise Girls Independent. Raise them to stand up for themselves.
But, at the same time : Raise Girls to blend in. Give benefit of doubt. Realize his parents are like hers, who cannot change at the tip of hat. Realize not every man wants to live off his wife’s money. Realize just like the girl, guy also has lot of plans that have perfectly jeopardized because you entered his life. And he is trying to help, genuinely. Like you – he needs time to adjust.
If there’s one thing I’ll tell my girl, that will be – LISTEN. EMPATHIZE. TAKE TIME TO UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE ASKING OF HIM, HIS FAMILY AND LIFE.
More than anything else – It’s good to stand up for one selves, but never at the cost of misunderstanding good people and burning bridges and hearts.