Saanvi Chronicles : Of Not Eating food and other things

I’m at home with my daughter since last August.  Working from home. Saanvi has enriched my life in ways more than one in the last 10 months. I pampered her more than required, I shouted on her and I cried. There have been awesome things too. I got to spend time with her more than i could ask for. Anyday once she grows up, I would have lot of stories to tell her about her childhood. Meanwhile, my daughter’s busy giving me lessons on parenting.

Fondly, I always call her my personal PTP : Patience Training Programme.  Here is the series of events that happened since Last 20 Days:

Day 20 : Saanvi was sneezing non stop. I did nothing.

Day 19: Saanvi still sneezing. I gave her Allegra 5 ml. Stopped her school on that day. She played her usual self, no complaints.

Day 18: Saanvi has stopped sneezing. I did not give her any medication. She still skipped her school.

Day 17: All medication stopped completely, I sent her to school normally.

Day 14 : Her Father came from Gurgaon. All excited, she took her food normally for the next 2 days.

Day 11:  Saanvi’s food intake has stopped completely. We both are worried, along with the entire family.

Day 10:  Saanvi goes to the Doctor. After examination, he puts her on cough syrup for a week as she has flum and cold syrup for a week. And on Iron tonic for 3 months, as she looks very anemic. I feel so ashamed of my parenting : After staying at home for 10 months, now she is in a position to take iron tablets.

Day 9: We started Iron syrup.

Day 8 : I started Cough syrup, gave her once out of 3 times recommended.

Day 7 – Yesterday :No Cough Syrup.  iron tonic administered with syringe for the last 3 days.

Day 4 – Day 1 : Total food stopped. Her entire food comprised of 1 glass milk, 4-5 spoons of rice. And water. No  motion passed. I tried all possible ways and her standard answer is : “saanvi does not want any food. ” I even let her starve and she did not come back for food, making me even more guilty.

Today morning : I heard her coughing and felt the flum again. I was an idiot to think the flum will disappear on its own. Administered the cough syrup and all the flum was out as vomiting.  No School today. As compensation to the scoldings she had for the past few days, going to toys shop now. Ofcourse, did not tell her this reason.

Whoever reads this, will declare that i am either the most irresponsible mother on earth, or i am just born with a mission of not following doctor’s advise. Even I thought so for a good hour today. What made me to not give her cough medicine after instruction from doctor?

1. The gut feeling that it will disappear on its own, since there are no physical symptoms.

2.  Laziness

3.  Saanvi resisting any kind of medicine, making this task an unpleasant one for me to do.

All the above are true. However, I learnt few valuable lessons today :

1. No matter Saanvi looks cured the moment we come back from hospital, it’s mandatory to give her all the instructed doses until the course is complete.

2. My Laziness has to be with matters related to me, not Saanvi.

Of all the things, I’m proud of one thing I did : I finally realized that it’s not Saanvi’s fault. Although she’s tall for her age and has elder’s behavior patterns, she cannot play so many tantrums to be hungry for 3 days straight. Having this empathy with her made me realize all my other mistakes. I’m glad I did.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

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How to get your kid to drink all the medicines ?

What’s bad? Your kid getting sick.

What’s worse? Administering the medicine 3 times a day for a period of time without fail.

Why am I writing about this now? My daughter has been advised to be on iron tonic for 3 months to cover her anemia. The first 2 times, she fancied drinking from the cup that comes with the tonic bottle. After her fancy subsidised, she banned the medicine. I used this trick invented by my lovely husband Vinod last year.

Here’s what you do:

1.Buy a syringe. Take the needle out.

2. One of your family members to hold the baby firmly. ( Mine was 2 years 10 months as of doing this with her.)

3. Fill the syringe with the medicine.

4. Open her mouth and administer such a small dose that she cannot spit even if she want to.

5. Keep doing step 4 until the medicine is complete.

6. Praise the kid for taking the medicine.

Bingo! and You are done.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Water Woes and Lessons Learnt

waterI live in independent duplex house.  Everyday, we have motor running for about 1 hr to 1.5 hr to keep the water flow running in the house. Yesterday was no different until my mother in law felt a burning smell coming from the motor. She switched off and we had enough water for the day. At 7 PM, my father in law saw the tap dry and asked us to switch the motor on. BANG! The motor does not run !!!!! What do we do now?  As with usual Indian households, we do have our electrician numbers in a small diary. And mind you, all the numbers exist only in the diary and that is THE Scared book in our house. So, we rang to our family electrician who was out of town only to return next day morning.  After filling up all the buckets in the house with help from our neighbor, we called another electrician who is a frequent to our opposite house. He came, took the motor with him and He Went. It was supposed to get fixed by today afternoon. So, the only thing I did since yesterday night was to wait to get the motor fixed. I never slept in my whole life with 1/2 bucket water in my room and did not face any water trouble so far.

Came afternoon and brought the motor. After fixing it and see the water flow, we rewarded the electrician and let him go. We had powercut for half an hour as soon as the electrician went. Once the power is back, I was hoping to have a nice bath and relax myself. As the water did not flow in any of the taps except one, the house entered in a panic mode. We called the electrician again, who said the only option is to open the pipes going to the water source and see if he can do something. If there is really no underground water, even he cannot help us. Pretty simple and straight forward. As our usual electrician was supposed to come to the city today, we let this guy go and called him. He said he would come around 5 PM. All the water that was left in the house was 1 bucket in total.  I started looking out for water tanker options. Isn’t it good to have some water saved at home, if again the motor suddenly turns its back against us?  Relaxed throughout the day so far, I even preached my folks that this isn’t a life emergency and we will get it fixed. My fuse blew when I started searching for water tankers. After calling almost 75 numbers in a span of 1 hour, I was frustrated and tired.  Only 3 of them supplied water tankers, and none to my area.  None of the numbers I missed called me back. Yeah, it’s summer and they are in water business. Quite understandable.

As my father in law came back from work, he learnt the entire story. Our usual electrician was on the way and we had lost all our hopes on him.  My FIL brought another trusted electrician to check the motor. He too said that the pipes had to be opened and things need to get replaced, mostly.  We argued with the decision of getting this repaired. What IF we didn’t have ground water at the end? What IF we had? Finally, at 7 PM we decided to get the pipes out and try to get it repaired.

After 2.5 hours of uncertainity and replacement of 3 parts, the motor was finally fixed. But, what was also fixed is my negligence towards water. I know what you are thinking and don’t hate me please. I never had a situation in my life where I need to be cautious OR the water in front of me was all the water I had. So, my attitude is very natural. After marriage, my husband and later my mother in law observed my water habits and nudged me to be more careful. Afterall, there is a saying that your expenses will be as good as your water spending habits. But, I always squinted them for their miserly habits and carried on with wasting water. Today is the day. What did I learn finally?

1. Water is precious. And you will only realize when you dont have it. So, if you waste it often, you will get the realization even more often.

2. We had 2 buckets and my mother in law wanted to bathe with one of the bucket water. Even Saanvi hadn’t bathed since morning. I was miffed at her choice of keeping herself clean. But, when I cooled down myself by watching some nonsense on TV, I was again drawn to my own limitation of “setting expectations” trap. And when I dropped expectations on her behavior, I turned my usual self.

3. Make your things priority. Had i bathed Saanvi in the morning, I would have water adjusted accordingly.

4. The Water Suppliers facility in Hyderabad is utterly pathetic. I wished today that i disappear from Hyderaba d for ever in all the summers.

5.  Independent houses in far off areas are good – atleast for the simple reason that they have abundance of ground water supply. Apart from the privacy I enjoy, water has to be the next best reason to like my home now.

6. By evening, everyone at home was exhausted and started picking up on each other vehemantly. What I did was to go upstairs and finish up the article pending for The Rodinhoods website. That is the best thing I did today – If you cannot contribute positively, please stay away from the discussion.

7. Saanvi was at her worst from the past 2 days – ALL The food is practically rejected. So, when she rejected her dinner, all my policies went haywire. What followed was shouting on Saanvi, Saanvi crying and me crying.  If I’d have taken a short break and watched the nonsense TV Again, may be I wouldn’t have put my day’s frustration out on her. Lesson learnt again.

Hopefully, my folks at home will be happy with my decision to use water judiciously.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Breakfast : Cow Peas and Raw Mango Pancakes

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I saw this recipe in ETV and wanted to make this delicious snack for all at home. That evening, I brought cow peas ( bobbarlu) and raw mango from the store.  The snack turned our really really good and I was glad i tried it.

Ingredients :

Cow peas : 250 gms, Chana Dal and Moong Dal – handful each

Raw mangoes – 2 ( Adjust according to the sour taste you can tolerate)

Cabbage – 1 small cup

Green chilli – 10

Ginger garlic paste: 2 tbsp

Mint Leaves : Bunch

Curry Leaves : Bunch

Cumin Seeds : 2 tbsp

Procedure:

1. Soak cow peas, Chana dal and Moong dal for 4 hours .

2. Keep few cow peas, chana dal and moong dal aside.

3. Grind all the rest of the ingredients without water to a smooth paste, except cumin seeds, mint leaves and curry leaves.

4. Add cumin seeds,  curry leaves and mint leaves  to the smooth batter. Add salt.

5. Put oil on the stove and make the vadas.

Notes:

> I used 1 raw mango which was very sour. But, the taste just disappeared and we didn’t feel the sourness at all. So, for 250 gm, 2 mangoes is suggested.

> These taste excellent with cut onions and lemon / chilli sauce / tomato sauce.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Book Review : To kill a mockingbird

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Some books are timeless classics. When I logged into Quora and was tired of seeing no updates, i joined the group “Books” to see a question on which books should one read ( The one question that all book related groups must have). I knew a few, but not a lot of them mentioned. Quite a lot of them mentioned this book, so I had the urge to read it. After reading it, I think the time spent reading this book was really the best investment of time in the recent past.

The book is narrated from the eyes of an 8-year old Jean, who stays with her dad Atticus and her older brother Jem.  They stay in a sober place called Marycomb which has 4 different kid of folks : The Negros being the last.  Jean, along with Jem and Dill spends her summers wondering why their neighbor Boo Radley never comes out and spends plans devising a way of getting him out. As they grow older, they hear people cursing their father for defending a nigger( negro). They learn that their father is arguing a case in court, defending the negro against a rape case on a white women. Atticus is modest and a role model every person should have in their life. As he aruges the case in court and loses it, the accused Tom is shifted to Jail. He gets shot dead while trying to run away. The argument in the court are the excellent pieces of the book. As days pass on, we are taken to understand how life functions usually – everything is forgotten. Towards the end, when Jean and Jem come back from their school function late in the night – the father of the raped girl tries to kill them but they manage to escape. When Heck, the sheriff of Maycomb goes to investigate – he finds him dead. Atticus, the man of character wants to acquit Jem of murder – but Sheriff tells him that a black man is dead without any reason and now the man who is responsible is dead. It goes without saying that, the sheriff killed Bob Ewell.  What a fantastic ending!

It only shows that Law is not everything. In the heart of hearts, people are good and just want their chance to prove it. It’s not a question of black or white, in the eyes of god everyone is created equal. Although we become more senseless as we grow up, the story as told from an 8-year old’s perspective is told to every single human being. Mockingbird symobolises an innocent person and it’s never a wise idea to kill a mockingbird. The sin will come back to you, eventually.

I cannot rate this book, it’s a masterpiece. Grab the copy and just read it.

Have a great day and keep rocking!!

Sweets : Rava Laddoo

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Easy to make, Yummy to eat 🙂 After 3 weeks of difference between idea and implementation, I finally got it done today.

Total time take : 15 minutes

Ingredients

Suji : 1 cup

Sugar : 1 cup

Cardamom : 8-10

Cashewnuts :10, break down by hand into small pieces

Milk: Enough to make balls

Ghee: 2- 3 Tbsp

Procedure:

Grind sugar and cardamom into fine powder.

Add 1 tsp ghee and fry the cashews until golden brown.

Add some more ghee and keep frying suji until it changes its color from white.

Once suji is a bit warm, add the sugar powder. Keep adding milk and see if it is of the laddoo consistency.

Store in an air tight container. The above measurements will make 9 laddoos.

Notes:  Don’t overestimate the amount of milk needed. Just add 2 tbsp and keep mixing. I added a bit more and the shape of the laddoo got ruined.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Recipe 13 : Tomato Yogurt Chutney

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If you want to have something to eat with your chapati but have no veggies at home and are really pressed for time( read: dont want to go into kitchen that day), then this is the perfect recipe. It take 15 minutes in total to prepare it and it really tastes awesome.

Ingredients

Fresh curd, beaten well: 400 gms

Tomatoes: 5

For smooth paste:

Green chilli: 3, Ginger – 1 small piece and cumin seeds – 1/2 tsp

For tempering:

1 tbsp ghee, urad dal, methi seeds , cumin seeds, rui, curry leaves, coriander leaves

Procedure:

Cut the tomatoes into small pieces and let them cook until mushy mushy. Cool them down. Add turmeric and salt enough to cook the tomatoes well.

While the tomatoes are on stove, beat the curd well and keep it ready.

Grind all the ingredients mentioned in “Smooth Paste” in grinder with little water.

Add it to the yogurt.

Take a separate pan, add the ghee and all the items mentioned in tempering section.

Add the tempering to yogurt, followed by enough salt.

Finally, once the tomatoes cool down, add the tomatoes to the yogurt and mix well.

If you have time, just chill this yogurt chutney for 1/2 hour before serving. All the items mix well in yogurt and big in their flavor.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!