Feedback and its appreciation

Sometimes, it’s hard to see at yourself without a mirror. But, the people around you – they act as your first-hand mirrors : Nothing really escapes their eyes. The past few days, where I was looking after Saanvi –  it was becoming impossible to feed her. I was at the verge of tears when i spent close to 1 hour and all she did was run from here and there. As soon as the food plate shifted to her grandma’s hand , she opened her mouth. I was so tired that i just rushed to my room to have some time for myself. I was tired, frustrated and angry. How can i feed her???

So, the next day – when I woke up as usual to prepare morning tea, I asked my mother in law on why is she so dificuilt to feed, espicially to me. Her answer came to me in an instant – you make her play, her concentration is more on games when she’s with you. Stop playing games with her, and just feed”. I shook my head, and defended as much as I could. We left the conversation after I was adamant that all kids need to play during their lunch time. By today’s lunch time – I was tired of the day’s work and had the gigantic task of feeding her – she staring at me, while i call out for lunch.

I remembered my mother-in-law’s advise and why not – I didn’t have an ounce of patience to run around her today. So, i just kept talking and asking her to run around. I took a stair case and just sat there. It took time, but atleast she was opening her mouth. God, it was such a relief. Evening, i did the same – and it worked. I confirmed that she is normal, and I am at fault.  She is 2 now, and understands who does what. If I can give her the message that mommy comes to feed her, not play during lunch time – my feeding sessions are going to be much better.

Have a good day, and keep rocking!!

So hum meditation : day 1

I have promised myself to do meditation for 40 days starting from today. I just want to experience the calmness that arises out of it.

Day 1 – average. Ayyappa songs playing downstairs demanded more attention from my mind than the so hum. It was so loud that I did not even listen the end timer.

I meditated today for 5 minutes.

On a side note, register for newsletter at Anmol Mehta As a free gift, you will get a collection of spiritual short stories. Just awesome. Planning to tell these to saanvi when the time is right.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Discovering Saanvi’s Taste Buds – Rawa Kesari

My daughter is one of the picky and difficult eaters you never wish you kid turn into. Now that i have some time on hand, and at home in Hyderabad, I wanted to see if i will be successful in discovering my daughter’s taste buds. Come, join me in the journey..

Today is the first day, and Rawa Kesari is the item.

Result: Utter flop. She just hated it. I had to dig deep to get the cashews and give them to her. I was very hopeful she will like it, because in general i heard the comments that kids really like to splurge on this item. Anyway, it was wow in taste, and my family had a good evening snack.

I got the recipe and measurements from here http://www.sailusfood.com/2011/10/03/kesari-recipe-rava-kesari-halwa/.  This is spot on, and the measurements are perfect – it’s not sweet, its not bland – just nice.

As usual, just forgive me this time for no picture – I promise i will update from tomorrow’s recipes. Atleast , this will give me solace that my recipe was alright and strength to keep experimenting.

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

From hyderabad

So, finally the great australian trip is over. Very sad to even think of that. Back in Hyderabad, busy dusting my house and rearranging things between luggage and suit cases.

Own home and your own country are wonderful feeling. Saanvi was fine during the flight, except few hiccups. I had the same experience when I landed Newark airport. Throwed up everything I ate during the past few hours. Sigh.

Staying in Hyderabad is a weird feeling. Sometimes suddenly during the day – I wonder If I ever went to work. It’s holiday time.

My professional writing at a tech news website is going on good, just need to keep the tempo on. So glad I started to do this. The books on my kindle are waiting as well. I think my daughter’s done a good job recovering from jet lag, than me. I still don’t feel hungry and keep drinking enormous amounts of water.

How are all of you guys doing?
Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Marriage: Love Or Arranged?

I sit in the theater, eyes dreamy wondering in my heart whether  I would meet someone who would love me as intensely as Suriya loves Asin, in the blockbuster Ghajini.  One of the major reasons why the movie is a hit is because of the narration of romance between the lead actors.  Every girl wishes to have a never-before wedding, but most importantly a never-sad marriage. She wishes that, her husband understand her deeepest desires and fears, and treat her like her father treats her – like a princess.  So, where does she get this – when she selects on her own or when she trusts her parents with that one big decision in her life, and goes along with them?

Not all girls are raised the same. Some independent and fierce, some soft and still hiding behind their mom’s face after their post graduation.  Some still come from broken & unhappy families, nurturing a lot of thoughts they do not even know they exist. Some see their friends suffering, and have already developed some false prejudices around marriage. Yeah, girls come in all sizes of physical and emotional packages.

It’s only fair enough to say that one size never fits all. That’s why we have so many types of jeans available these days – Boot cut, Straight fit, skinny, Supa Skinny and Second Skin.  Yes, the same girl could wear many kind of jeans, but there are certain jeans that will look odd or will not fit the girl at all.  Although some girls can get away with the concept of no-marriage, eventually everyone needs to settle down – and you ought to get married.  So, you have to pick your jeans – but which one? Unfortunately in marriage, we cannot keep trying in many different shops and many different types and sizes until we find the one we like and fit.

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Love Marriage comes in handy here. Although I wouldn’t like to suggest that, people doing love marriages go dating until they find their Prince Charming. But, in an informal environment – you get to know the person before you have different thoughts about them. You know the friend of friends, and you get to hang around and know their history and geography before plunging into their mental territory.  There’s no hurry – you can take your time and if you are interested – you can keep cross checking yourself until one day you are dead sure that you’d be rather with this person and take all the calculated risks.

But, what if –  the person fooled you? What if, they always managed to see you in their good mood and happy circumstances? What if you never get your parents blessings?  Why should I take such risks in my life – when I have my parents to do the initial filtering for me?

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Yes, and so absolutely true. A comparatively risk-free setting, and you get to know the person with the intention of marrying them. With time things change. If you do a bit of hanging out, atleast on mobile phone with the prospect – you’d know. Trust me, in their heart of hearts, girls know the kind of guy they are ending up with. If they are faking, they are only betraying themselves.

My two cents are – Whatever way you choose, take your time. Love is not choosen or decided to happen, it just happens.  when it happens, inspect it again and again and (sorry, again!!) to make sure it’s love forever and not until the first argument happens, involving his or your family.

If you go via the safe route – still take your time please. Have time before engagement and marriage.  Get to know them as much as you can – it’s similar to given the chance of tying our jeans 100 times before you buy – you still have the capability to reject.  And once given a chance, you know what to do.

Concluding with this wonderful quote on marriage –
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”.

Not surprisingly, it doesn’t mention whether it’s love or arranged. Good Luck.

 

PS: This is my entry to www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange.

Birthday in Sydney

I turned 31 yesterday. A very pleasant day, filled with lot of surprises and happiness.

As a sucker for books, you can only imagine the joy in my heart when I saw the amazon kindle in my hands at midnight 12. My joy knew no bounds. My dear hubby, who on the superficial appears not to agree with my mindless reading – now I know what you exactly think 🙂 early morning, my daughter wishes me a very happy birthday with a beautiful handbag in her hands. This is something I wanted to get from a long long time. Once again, pleasantly surprised.

After wearing my new dress, I took blessings from god, my in-laws and husband. Off to work, after eating a sweet gulab jamun.

My office is a nice place. Whenever I sit at my desk, I am at great peace. Sometimes I wonder, how can I be so lucky to be associated with such nice bunch of people? It’s a shame that it’s short lived. Every one wished me well. One of my colleague’s sister in law works in a bakery. She sometimes brings us really nice cakes and she planned to bring one on my birthday. She didn’t knew it was my birthday. Once she knew, she graciously agreed to make it my birthday cake. It was embarrassing to see my team singing birthday song. When I came to know my colleague’s goodness, I was so grateful for her.

What followed was my birthday an farewell lunch. Two of my colleagues, who are from different team joined the lunch – because they knew me so well. Happy again.

My lunch mate gave me the biggest dairy milk I have ever bought. It also bought the biggest smile on my face.

After lunch, I finished off some configuration I was in the middle of. My dear hubby waited for me at town hall and we went to bondi junction. The Westfield shopping mall is the biggest I’ve seen so far in Sydney. We saw TED. If I have some time today, I’ll do a review. After that, I had cookie shake. Yummy tummy and awesome.

We went home and I had the rest of the day to laze and play around my dear daughter. Through out the day, my family called me and wished me well.My CEO also sent me an SMS, which was was icing on the cake. Talking to my grand parents made me nostalgic. I remembered all my childhood days and my heart got a bit heavy.

On a side note, it was time to think about where my life was going. How am I leading my life? Lot and lots of introspection. In a way, very happy and satisfied. Started listening to Srimad bhagatam, by Sri chaganti koteswara rao. Now in Episode 32 out of 120.The pravachanam are sweet nectar to my ears, there is nothing more sweeter than it in my whole life. With god’s grace, I have started to tell short stories to my daughter about good and bad, happy and sad. Overall, still long way to go – but atleast I started walking.

By my next birthday – I hope to have these blessing in my life increase ten fold and have greater awareness about my life. Will try to do atleast couple of activities to help others and myself

Have a good day and keep rocking!!

Watermelon Book review : By Marian Keyes

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“Are you crazy? ”  my husband asked me yesterday night at 1:10 AM. I lied down in the sofa, tears coming out of my eyes – wrapped in my bedsheet and trying to finish up the above said book.

I was reading it non stop from 10 PM, after smugly settling in the sofa and making sure everybody else in the house is asleep. For my own selfish reasons, I didn’t want anybody to disturb me.

Enough of my own stories, this post should be about reviewing Marian Keyes’s chic-lit “Watermelon”.

The book runs in the mind of Claire, and describes her situations and her thoughts as we progress through her life – from her first day of delivery to the final page, which describes her going back to London. The conversations are witty, and the thought process of Claire, as she undergoes various situations are very real-life like.

Here comes the story. Claire, who believes that her’s is a perfect marriage – with her being more bubbly, lively and her accountant husband being sober & rock-solid – is in for a rude shock when he leaves her for Denise, a fat mother who lives downstairs of their apartment.  Claire has no clue, and she goes back to her  maternal family, to Dublin. First few days, she’s in shock and not harmless, but the next few days – when she imagines “HER” james with Denise, she is nothing short of Adolf Hitler. Here enters the hero of Mills & Boons novels – Adam. Her sister’s classmate. His constant attention & asking her out – that chapters of the book makes us feel like we are reading an entirely different book – some YA. Ok, coming back – James comes back to Claire, and tells her that he is tired of being responsible, and hence he left her.

“If you were so good, why would I leave you?” — Claire keeps thinking this to herself, while reminding herself why James left her. Only after she’s convinced that – she shouldn’t be as good as she was and deciding to go back to James to live on his terms & conditions, reality comes back to her with an entirely different version. Her near & dear tell her that James was insecure and he had an affair out of insecurity. He was always afraid he would lose her. After so-bookish-conversations with James, Claire finally ends her marriage.

Where I did not agree at all with the author is — Claire doesn’t realize that James is insecure about her until her marriage breaks, and people around her have to tell her. That is ridiculous. If you invest your time & effort in your marriage very often – you cannot help but notice how your partner feels about you. Oh yes, I know we cannot decipher their every single thought – but such a big feeling as INSECURITY & JEALOUSY – they cannot stay lurking for long, even in expert faker’s face and mind. And that she should know.

Also, revealing Adam’s past in the last 3 pages of the book – too hurried and unnecessary. He could do away without his past, and still be accepted by Claire, isn’t it?

Apart from that, the best part of the book was her mother’s cooking, her sister’s sharp-witty lines and Claire’s explanations of how her emotions.

If you just leave your brain behind in a cupboard, and just looking for some chic-lit, sure GO for IT!!! If you are like me, and try to reason on why Claire behaves the way she behaves -stay away.

Oh, and one more thing. When I told my husband my view on the book, he was very surprised. Usually, I immerse myself in author’s shoes and defend her in all the subsequent arguments on the book.  I think, i’m no more young for chic-lit, now that I’m turning 31 in couple of days from now.

Another book from the same author – “Rachel’s Holiday” is waiting for me. I’ll give a couple of seconds to decide if it’s worth dissecting.

My rating as a critic :  2.5/5

My rating as a chic-lit reader : 4/5

Have a good day, and keep rocking!!